April 14th, 2008

The Qantas Experience...many thanks to Rain Man

I'm not going to lie.  I love to travel, but i HATE flying (yeah, I know, I fly all the time and have flown to dozens of countries since I was a wee kid).  But, still, I really HATE flying.  Sweaty palms, shaky legs, you name it and I've got it.

When I worked at Razorfish in San Francisco in 2000, I refused to fly to a company retreat in Las Vegas; instead, I took a 6-hour train ride and a 6-hour bus ride to Sin City (while on Greyhound on the way back to SF, I was one of two people on the ride before we headed up to a prison to collect half-a-dozen newly released inmates - but still, to me, sittin' on a bus with criminals in the desert was much better than boarding a plane).  

For most of the late nineties, I avoided all opportunities that involved air travel.  But in 2004, when I moved back to Canada from the U.S., I started to get sick of being so afraid so my doctor suggested that I take Ativan when I'm high up in the air.  Yes, high up in the air (turns out Ativan is an amnesiac, so you can't even remember that you were afraid - weird, huh?). 

Over the past few years, I've had to fly more and more, and am (finally) getting pretty solid at talking my way through each and every minute while in-flight (oh, and talking to pretty much anyone who sits near me or who works on the plane).   Here's an email I received yesterday from someone I met two(?) years ago en route to Los Angeles (in other words, you might want to hope that you don't ever have a plane seat near me):

"I met you on a plane from Toronto to SF and it was the weirdest flight I ever had... We passed cryptic notes to the crew and scared everyone else... do you remember this?" -Eric

Most recently, I flew from Orlando, Florida to Brisbane, Australia, which is why I've got flight on my mind.  For 13 hours over the Pacific Ocean, on Qantas Airlines, I kept remembering what "Rain Man" said in the movie, so tonight I looked up the video and had a little chuckle.  Here it is for your enjoyment.  And, I'm not going to lie, this silly scene made me feel less sweaty and shaky the whole flight to Oz!  Please tell me i'm not the only one with stories like this ;).  -A

April 14th, 2008 | Permalink | Comments (32)

Posted by: Rob Metras | around about 1 year ago

Great clip. No you are not alone. Looks like 20+ sites on aerophobia on Google to help peeps

Posted by: Chris | around about 1 year ago

even birds occasionally get the jitters

Posted by: Graham | around about 1 year ago

Flying is fine. It's the take offs & landings that freak me. Flying from Melbourne (Australia) to London, tyre blows landing at Singapore. Over London, we bank & it feels as if we have stopped. Stomach feels like it has already begun descending Take a side flight to France.Landing at Nice you come in over the sea no land in sight. Fear of heights does not help.

Posted by: RobL | around about 1 year ago

I know exactly what you go through. Flown hundreds of thousands of miles around the world and before every flight there is that moment where you get that bad feeling. Being a rational person you talk yourself out of being crazy but deep down the fear still exists. Talked to a lot of people about this and it is very common. I've never actually tried it but may take up writing notes to the crew :-)

Posted by: Jeremy L. | around about 1 year ago

Ha! I'd recognize those murals anywhere! That's the Cincinnati/Northern Kentucky International airport, very near where I live (although that may be the terminal that is now just an administrative building). Also, do airplanes moving on the runways feel like RVs to you?

Posted by: Ben Grubb | around about 1 year ago

I've only ever flown on domestic flights withing Australia, and have always found them to be no problem for me, besides the occasional excruciating ear ache, but if you ask the staff kindly, they will give you some eucalyptus things to sniff on, which I've found help me tremendously. Next time Amber, do a meet up in Aus!

Posted by: Jacob Burke | around about 1 year ago

Amber, I too get jittery on planes now and then, especially when I took a flight into Columbus, MO. It was the tiniest plane I had been in - just nuts! I hope to get lucky one day and have the chance to sit next to you on a flight. So many people on airplanes these days don't want to talk!

Posted by: rickfle | around about 1 year ago

I was a road musician for far longer than I wanted to be, and every flight (I was sure) was going to be the final one for me and all of my co-travelers. Except that it never was, and here I am. After years of avoiding flying, feeling that I had dodged a bullet in my traveling days, I began to fly again and found that I was OK. Not great, but OK. Then I had a couple of really rough, but short, flights, and, somehow, surviving those uncomfortable trips 'innoculated' me, and now I seem to be a calm flyer. Not that I want to fly, but if I'm going to fly, I'm OK with it. Two rules, though: no small planes, and jets only, nothing smaller than a 737/MD-80. BTW, until our daughter was eighteen, my wife insisted that she and I always fly seperately so in case "something happened" we would not leave an orphan behind. A cheery thought to fly with.

Posted by: SoBeGene | around about 1 year ago

Amber, All you have to do is behave accordingly just like Raymond did at the airport and you may never have to travel by air again.

Posted by: rob frost | around about 1 year ago

I love flying! But I hate crashing. Hate it.

Posted by: Natali Del Conte | around about 1 year ago

I suggest Ambien. You'll sleep right through all of that anxiety. :)

Posted by: eric f. | around about 1 year ago

Amber, one word. Clonazepam. I swear by it. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clonazepam

Posted by: Tim | around about 1 year ago

hey amber - delurking myself here - im in brisbane - want to do a blogger catch up? or have you left already?

Posted by: SteveintheUK | around about 1 year ago

Hi Amber, I have flown a number of times but only once by domestic flights, other times being on military aircraft as a civilian observer for military exercises. After being in the back seat of a British Military Hercules Transporter, with the top half of the back door open at take off, I found the domestic flight was a nice relaxing experience. Then it may have been more to do with the relieve of actually making it to the airport in time to catch the flight than the actually flight. It does really help you to not worry about the actually flight by stressing about just getting to the airport as you just don't have time to even think about the flight. Glad you found a way to be able to cope with flying though, and yes I would love to be sat in the seat next to you on a plane for 13 hours, maybe one day I will be that lucky. L&L

Posted by: jccalhoun | around about 1 year ago

As often as you seem to fly I am really surprised that you hate it so much. I hate flying too but that's only because I'm 6ft 4 and have to fly coach. My knees hit the seat in front of me even when it is in "the fully upright position."

Posted by: RETT | around about 1 year ago

I had a bad experience going from Chicago to Cleveland lighting was all over the place turbulence was real bad.People on the flight thought we where going to die.After that flight doctor gave me zanex.I take one when I fly and takes the edge off.You get used to flying after a while.My doctor said their is a reason so many bars are in airports.

Posted by: Calgary Guru | around about 1 year ago

I'm just glad that the last time I flew was BEFORE all the extra security hassles since 9/11... I never dealt with taking off shoes, no bottles of beverages, nail clippers, etc. I don't envy anyone that has to fly. Not that I will NEVER fly again, but it's not in my foreseeable future fortunately.

Posted by: Jonathan | around about 1 year ago

I love Rain Main. Tom Cruise plays the frustrated role very well!

Posted by: gerald | around about 1 year ago

when I saw the way Cruise's character acted,its embarrassing isn't it? I act that way every now and then. With my mom usually.I say to myself,that is a very bad way to act. Ger

Posted by: Sherwood Patrick | around about 1 year ago

I use to fly a lot and had a few scares – now I pray for a safe flight before take off. Lol *** few – funny now incidents *** Had pilot announce over Atlantic there may not be enough fuel to make it to New York, It was a discount airline with dollar signs painted on plane. Had plane doing wing-over’s coming into Tel Aviv – learned later it was anti missile maneuver. Had air conditioning stuck on FULL on return trip from Hawaii Had plane almost slide off runway landing in Montreal, planes should not go sideways I don’t like when they keep trying to land but can’t see the runway and try again. or watching fluids leak out of engine. Had jumbo jet hit bad air pocket that most of oxygen masks popped out. Glad I was strapped in and not eating. ** But no mater what it’s like I think of the stewards that fly ALL time. http://www.planeinsanity.com/ This is a book by one of them, very funny. ***

Posted by: Not that Eric | around about 1 year ago

No so sure the drugs are the best approach (do what you need to). How about a calming mantra, like "I have jeopardy at 5 o'clock" @Amber - do you fly or drive to florida?

Posted by: ulric | around about 1 year ago

About that Rain Main clip... I can't help thinking that if I had been tom cruise, I would have asked "Isn't it safer to fly on an airline that's already crashed"? I'm dying to know what the Rain Man would think of that.

Posted by: Andrew Roth | around about 1 year ago

Dustin Hoffman nails the autistic person so well. Personally I'm fine with taking off and landing, it's just I'm a bit claustrophobic so sitting on the furthest inside beside someone larger than average makes me feel really trapped.

Posted by: Matthew | around about 1 year ago

Hi have you tried hypnosis to suppress the anxiety?

Posted by: Steve | around about 1 year ago

Hope the fellow countrymen are treating you well Amber. Bring me back some Vegemite!

Posted by: Paul Richards | around about 1 year ago

Amber, Hi, I would highly recommend Debbie Seaman's book: "The Fearless Flier's Handbook". It got me on a plane and back from London to Fort Worth 8 years ago pretty successfully at a time when I was very badly afflicted with aerophobia: http://about.pricegrabber.com/search_getprod.php?isbn=9781580080293 Good luck! Paul

Posted by: Daniel | around about 1 year ago

A few years back I had to fly on a business trip to the US. When we were watching the security instruction video I started laughing. the guy next to me asked what I was laughing about. I told him all the safety positions (head between your legs, hands on your head) were pretty pointless, and the only thing that might help is praying. He turned white .... turned out it was the first time in 30 years he dared to take a trip on an airplane again... oh well me and my big mouth .....

Posted by: LP | around about 1 year ago

Amber, Take an 'introduction to flying' ride (see Veronica on Mahalo). Knowing how the plane works might make you feel better...

Posted by: Ian Littman | around about 1 year ago

Pretty much the only thing Im worried about right now is the airline going bust ;). Though I have full respect for people who realize that they're flying in a heavier-than-air craft so high that the air is too thin to breathe, with a point of o return not far off the ground. *shiver* In my short history of flying (three domestic US carriers, eighteen times on a plane so far) I think my last flight was the most eventful. I could brag that I got 500 mph Six Flags action (just a little) about eighteen hours before my friends did...yay storms and turbulence above DEN. It probably also helps that the carrier I use (Frontier) has never, in its short history, had any crashes or mishaps, at least that Wikipedia can dig up :)

Posted by: Euan | around about 1 year ago

I'm a pretty nervous flier, although getting better I think. One thing I find that helps is to close my eyes and think about a time when I was really relaxed and happy. I allow myself to go back to that moment briefly just before take off, and at any time I get anxious during the flight. It really helps. This did backfire once. I closed my eyes and imagined I was 10 years old and sitting by the fireplace in my pajamas.. happy times. The next thing that popped in to my mind was the time that our pet dog caught fire! So yeah, it doesn't always work out :)

Posted by: Moochie | around about 1 year ago

Hi Amber -- I decided to have a look at your site to see if there was any info about your trip to Australia. I found with Firefox 2.0.0.14 your site doesn't render correctly. Not saying that it's a problem with the site, just that with this version of Firefox I encounter problems. I checked the site with IE7 and that works perfectly. Oh, and I'm none the wiser about your trip to Oz. Was it a holiday? Business? If you ever come to Melbourne and you have some time to spare and would like to meet with us (your fans), please let us know so that we can arrange a suitable venue. Cheers!

Posted by: Chris from Cincy | around about 1 year ago

That whole scene was shot at my local airport, Greater Cincinnati/Northern Kentucky International. They also shot several other scenes at spots around town. It was a huge deal when all of that was going on and many of the places still have evedence of the event (photos on the wall, etc). There is a small italian restaurant call ed Popillio's in Newport, Ky where they filmed the toothpick scene and you can request the "Rain Man" table and sit at that exact table for dinner...